Owen wasn't the only thing buried in the grave that day.  So was my identity and sense of self.When my first marriage ended in failure, I worked very hard to craft an identity that was not dependent on a relationship with a man, based on some books I was reading to help me through the aftermath of divorce.  One book that greatly influenced me was by Sylvia Friedman entitled, Men Are Just Desserts:  How Learning to Be a Woman with a Life of Your Own can Enrich the Life you ...